No doubt about it, trust must be earned

Doubt and trust conjure up an assortment of thoughts, but fundamentally they can’t exist together. As long as there’s doubt there is no trust. Much as you can’t be only a little pregnant, trust is all or none.

When not sure if you can trust others, take a mental inventory of who you can trust and why. Is it them, or is it a you problem?

Doubts arise when relationships or events don’t turn out as expected. You wonder about what broke down. Even if it was your mistake, you might project distrust on others.

How can you prevent doubts about others from paralyzing your life? One solution is not to obsess on perceived distrust of others. Take the high road and assume good intent. Act like you have control of your life — which you do.

Trust requires belief in the goodness and decency of others with mutual respect, honesty and dependability.

Although trust builds from personal experience, you can develop trust in others before you really get to know them. That conditional trust is stronger when the person is referred by those you already trust. Such conditional trust helps skip the awkward intro phase and lets you get right into action.

Trusting yourself directly relates to trusting others. Simply put, if you can’t trust yourself, who can you trust?

People skills bring together all of our instincts and training to evaluate and discern the whole person. That helps set aside doubt to start building trust.

Leadership, teamwork and customer service expert Kate Nasser said, “Trust can recover from mistakes but never from true betrayal.” Indeed, betrayal, like a diamond, lasts forever. Both have sharp edges that cut deep.

Ultimately, trust is earned. It comes sooner or later, depending on your relationship and experience. There is no trust at first sight.

About The Author

Jim Katzaman is a manager at Largo Financial Services and worked in public affairs for the Air Force and federal government. You can connect with him on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn.

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