The power of discernment — the ability to judge well — gives you a good grasp of when to hold on and let go. It brings more certainty and assurance to your life.
Judging starts from within. Having our own set of principles helps us relate them to — but not impinging them upon — others. Not judging others is also discernment.
One aspect of discernment — letting go — is tough when you know you should let go, but you’ve done it “forever.” Were you wrong all along? Is emotional attachment too strong? Is it simply reluctance to part from the comfort of the status quo?
Many of us have good discernment, and yet, it deserts at the time of action. If we haven’t mentally rehearsed what we will do, we might not be prepared when it’s time to act. Discernment is not winging it.
To succeed, we may have to say no more often than say yes. Simply saying no isn’t so simple. It might be the ultimate tough ask when it goes against our natural instinct to help whenever we can. Yet, all “Yes” can go against everyone’s best interests.
Practicing too much discernment, we might end up engaging in “fault-finding.” Remember that discernment is a team sport. Encourage those closest to you to stay alert and help keep your head on straight. Discernment is knowing and trusting discerning teammates.
There are many examples of discerning dynamic people all around you — those who discern those in need and take action on their own or in community service groups such as Lions Club.
To revive, restore and grow our power of discernment, think big, think before you act and then act.
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